I need to love myself (more)

I have been working on figuring out what self-love is and everything about it. I have just started, but some of the learnings have been eye-opening. I thought let's start with sharing that, so here it is:

I have learned these signs that tell me that I don't love myself:

• If, at times, I feel ashamed of myself

• If I have people in my life who don't respect me

• If I fear failure

• If I don't feel good when someone points out flaws in me

• If I can't meet strangers easily

• If I often get angry

• If I don't care about what people are doing and I only focus on myself

• If I feel that people around me don't understand me

• If I do things because I fear what people will think

• If I can't forgive someone

• If, at times, I believe I am right and the other person is wrong

• If, at times, I am ruthless and strict with myself

• If I feel I don't deserve what I have

• If I make other's needs my priority, than my needs

• If, at times, I feel I am incomplete

• If I get uncomfortable if someone compliments me

• If I believe that I don't look good

• If I can't take opposite belief openly

• If I can't bear the thought of someone not liking me

• If I can't say sorry

• If I feel that my loved ones should tell me that they love me

• If I feel that people should not cry so often

• If I have a lack of self-confidence

• If I think that I am perfect the way I am and I don't have to change anything about myself

• If I crave attention or appreciation from a loved one

• If I lack discipline

• If no one loves me enough

• If, at times, I wish people don't give me advice

• If I believe I am rarely wrong

• If I have complaints about someone that I love

• If I blame myself for certain things

• If I feel a victim of circumstances

• If I get happy when someone compliments me

• If I take things personally

• If I get upset if something that I was expecting doesn't happen

• If I justify my actions

• If I don't think about what I can do for someone that I love

• If I ignore reality

• If I don't ask for help

• If I don't celebrate my small wins

• If I don't give time to self-care and self-reflection

• If I don't surround myself with people that support me and uplift me

• If I don't treat myself with kindness, compassion, and respect

Some of them might seem repetitive, but all of these have different meanings to me. The list will keep getting updated, but these are some of the things I have learned.

Knowing that all of these are signs for me to love myself more has changed the way I see myself, the people around me, and the situations.

I think "Love Yourself" has been one of the most cliched and misunderstood topics out there. The more I learn, the more I understand that loving myself is much different than what I thought the world was trying to teach me.

Will keep you updated on this topic, till then keep loving yourself :)

Thank you so much for reading and waiting so patiently for me to get here.